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October 19, 2006

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kate

Strange...I was just thinking of your blog and experiences the other day...I, too, am trying to figure out how--to forgive and move on...it's different, we are spending time apart--he wants to date others-- and as soon as I feel like I may be OK with things, he comes back around, but I, too, struggle with how I got here..and really, how I move on. YOUR situation is different though, he has made that commitment--you had reached that point of no return and it seems he realized what life would look like without you. I know it sounds corny, but there's a country song: "God Bless the Broken Roads" Rascal Flatts...it's about the paths that lead us to the love of our lives..those necessary lessons that we learn about unconditional love of others, and ourselves...everything you went through got you where you are today..I realize that doesn't make it easier, but it had to be that way. You needed every lesson as did he.
I wish you the best.

cloudy

Hi Kate,

I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going well with you and your man. I think I understand some what you are going through, having gone through my own version of it for two years. People used to ask me all the time why I didn't just leave P and move on but I think what they never understood was that was something I would do when I was ready, and there is never really any telling when that is going to be. For years P would tell me how he needed to date other people (though he never really did) or how he wasn't ready and any number of other things. He needed to get to where he needed to be on his own, but it doesn't make it easier knowing that, I know.

Thanks for reminding me that I am lucky and that as much as it hurts sometimes, P and I needed to grow up a lot to get to where we are today. I'm sure I wouldn't have trusted a "perfect" relationship if that is what I got from him from the get go. And I'll be the first to admit that sometimes, being this happy scares the bejesus out of me and so I root around looking for problems to calm myself down. I'm weird, I know.

Best of luck to you too!

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